In this unhinged crossover episode, Meg & Nikki are joined by Onley James and Shannon Ezzell, hosts of the Feral Fandoms podcast to discuss psychopaths in romance, the parasocial relationships that fuel our favourite ships, and the appeal of morally gray characters who definitely need therapy (but we’d still risk it all for).

Tune in for:

* Why psychopaths in romance work only when they’re written with purpose

* The ethics of loving villains and the gray area between fantasy and morality

* Which conversations should happen in a Waffle House parking lot at 3am

* When “romantic obsession” crosses into “I could fix him” territory

* The psychology behind fan communities and what they reveal about human need for connection

It’s messy, meta, and mildly incriminating. Just how we like it.

Learn More About Our Guests:

* The Feral Fandoms Podcast

* Onley’s Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/cw/OnleyJames

* Onley’s website: https://onleyjames.com

* The Burned Out Muse on patreon: https://www.patreon.com/cw/TheBurnedOutMuse

Books & Media Mentioned

* Necessary Evils series – Onley James

* Time Served series – Onley James

* Vitale Brothers series – Skyler Snow & Brea Alepou

* Monster series – Lily Mayne

* Vampire Chronicles – Anne Rice (Interview with the Vampire, The Vampire Lestat, Queen of the Damned)

* Fifty Shades of Grey – E.L. James

* Morning Glory Milking Farm – C.M. Nascosta

* A Court of Silver Flames (ACOTAR) – Sarah J. Maas

* Cruel Intentions

* Mads Mikkelsen’s Hannibal (NBC)

* You (Netflix)

* Killing Eve (BBC America)

* Dexter (Showtime)

* American Psycho

* Basic Instinct

* Fatal Attraction

* Khemjira (Thai BL drama)

* K-Pop Demon Hunters (animated film)

* The Untamed (Chinese BL drama)

* Life of a Showgirl (Taylor Swift Album)

* Waffle House by Jonas Brothers

* Elizabeth Taylor/Backstreet Boys mix by Lydia Getachew on SoundCloud

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